things that have happened since my last post


I’m still alive and wow it has been months since I last posted…life got busy I guess. I’d like to start blogging again though…it’s always fascinating reading old posts and laughing at myself (because I’m a loser, clearly)

Summary of things that have happened since mid November 2014…

-HK friend came to visit from her exchange at Queen’s in late Nov

-turned 22 late Nov

-finished McGill in Dec

-new phone! (Note 3 iluvu)

-started working full time in Jan

-my friend got married in Feb, she’s giving birth in Sept, I was a bridesmaid

-grad convocation late May

-quit mid Jun

-many farewells with friends (food and alcohol!)

-moved to YYC from YUL late Jun

-ikea and moving and stuff

-visited Banff after over 10 years

-my grandma passed away Jul 1

-flew back to HK early/mid Jul

-funeral processions and preparations

-met up with HK friends

-returned to YYC early Aug

-laze around like a panda

The 11 Differences Between Dating a Girl vs a Woman


http://justmytype.ca/the-11-differences-between-dating-a-girl-vs-a-woman/

Very interesting article I discovered shared on facebook.

Well articulated and a hammer right on the nail!

Unfortunately a friend’s name kept surfacing in regards to ‘girl’ traits as I read the article…yes…the one I ranted about not too long ago.

“some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up.”

And I say,  aging is not a choice, but growing up is.

Six Weeks


Midterm rush is over as of yesterday, and now remains around six weeks left of university. It’s crazy how quickly time flies. One evening while procrastinating on facebook, I found myself going through old photos. As I scrolled past each one, I glanced at the date of some of my photos from exchange; gosh, I flew over right after my December finals and it was 2011?! It’s crazy. I even feels like I never went.

I think I’ll miss university, to some degree, and of course there will be things I certainly don’t miss. I can’t say I haven’t been looking forward to this day (especially as I slave away at 3am for a midterm or final).But to think all these years of schooling are coming to an end…wow. University years flew by, and my two years in CEGEP did as well. Just like that, I’ll be taking graduation photos in two weeks and say goodbye to McGill.

In ten months, I’ll be in a different province working somewhere I’ve been working toward for the past 3 1/2 years…I’m excited yet nervous. I can only hope everything turns out well. It’ll be the beginning of a new chapter in my life.

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So yesterday after speeding through my two hour 36 page operations management midterm (YES…36 pages!!!), I went straight to work. It was extremely windy yesteday; something like 50km/hour winds in the afternoon. Walking to work then leaving required strength to fight against the gusts of wind. I zoomed out of work as soon as the day ended and met up with a friend for coffee and dinner. We were supposed to meet up for lunch on Sunday too, but a 3rd friend cancelled to work for the elections as a poll clerk.

There’s a small cafe called Cafe Myriade that I’d been interested in trying. We spent a good two hours there chatting over her dilemmas, friends, and the future. It’s just inevitable that the future is brought up as grad approaches. I NEEDED coffee because I barely slept the night before (studying) and hadn’t had time to stop by Starbucks before work. I got myself an americano while my friend settled for a hot chocolate. The americano was really good. It was nice and thick, with good balance of bitterness and acidity; Starbucks americano seems so diluted in comparison. The prices are reasonable and I’m interested in trying their cafe latte so I’ll probably return some time. It’s right next to another university so quite a lot of students visit.

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We waited for another friend to come join us before we headed off to another cafe for dinner. Or rather, it was a bistro/tea salon called Nocochi. It has a nice Euro vibe with candles and pillows on clean white couches. The waitress was extremely friendly. We had been intending to go there for salmon tartare but to our disappointment…it was not on the menu though it had been online. Eh. We settled for sandwiches. I had the club sandwich with a side of potatoes. It tasted amazing, seriously. Possibly because I had been starving waiting for the other friend to arrive XD It’s pricey though, admittedly ($13+tax for mine….), so I don’t think I’ll stop by too often.

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Took the opportunity to also finally give an extremely belated birthday gift. Literally 1.5 months late! I’d been so busy with interviews then midterms I didn’t have time to go. My schedule kept clashing with another friend’s to go, so we finally only picked stuff up last week. She was supposed to come tonight as well, but she’s sick in bed with a midterm on Monday. The birthday gift consisted of UD Naked Basics palette and 2 bars of Laura Secord chocolate. Also, chocolate chips from Laura Secord seemed so interesting/cool so we got those too.

Speaking of birthdays, I’m turning 22 at the end of this month. I didn’t really go anything last year except visit a Japanese fusion cafe with a few close friends, but this year I’ll probably do a dinner since it’ll be my last birthday in Montreal. There’s an izakaya right near Chinatown and Old Montreal that looks fantastic. It has an amazing atmosphere/vibe, good alcohol (sake and omg they have Asahi and Kirin beer!!), and the food looks delicious as well. Down for this!

Oh, yes.

I did nothing for Halloween.

Imbalance


One of my good friends lately has been dealing with a certain situation, to which her boyfriend then came to me to talk about…he is my friend as well. There’s a guy whom she’s working with in a project who is very nice to her. She just has this constant mindset that her boyfriend is a complete jerk to her, does nothing for her, and doesn’t even care about her. I have to say, he can be incredibly stupid and childish sometimes, but saying he doesn’t care about her? No way. He isn’t the type to express his emotions that much and he’s not good with words either. They fight and she gets mad at him pretty often; I’ve been so lucky to get caught as a messenger in between for so many occasions I can’t even count.

The primary issue with them is that when they do argue and fight, they never solve it. Ever. They rant and complain for an hour or two, then it passes, as if it never happened, and the argument gets added onto what I (nerdily) call their general ledger. Their issues just pile up and never get solved. They seem to have the inability to sit down and talk things out seriously. It doesn’t help that I honestly feel her boyfriend has come to the point where he just goes with whatever she wants, so that she sort of just takes everything for granted…on the other hand, he sometimes is such a kid I just want to shout at him to take a seat and stop acting like a high schooler. The idiot has done things that have caused her to lose trust in him, and hence one of the reasons why she gets jealous easily before proceeding to get mad.

Somehow though, they just fit together. I honestly cannot see either of them with anyone else. Partly because I don’t know who else could put up with either one of them for such a long time *gets bricked* They can be equally frustrating.

Bringing it back to this new guy, who is oh-so-nice with her; she begins comparing him constantly to her boyfriend inside her mind, analyzing everything he does and thinking about breaking up. I would say it’s almost as if she’s just adamant on making her boyfriend into the world’s worst boyfriend; childish, doesn’t care about her, with terrible attitude. SOOOO yesterday, I was informed by her boyfriend that the guy confessed to her. I’d just like to mention this guy is fully aware she has a boyfriend that she has been dating for almost four years. Also, his last two girlfriends…had boyfriends as well. In other words, he seems to have a thing for stealing people’s girlfriends.

So that’s what I had been dealing with yesterday night (leading to me sleeping even less than my usual five hours…) and today (all the while at work!) The funny thing is, her boyfriend doesn’t even blame her, and he just wants her to realize she’s leaning toward that guy because of the fresh feeling of receiving attention and interest while she has gotten rather sick of him. It frustrates me to no end to see what her boyfriend went through when something similar like this happened with some girl two years ago, versus this situation now. He was wrong, obviously, though I understood why it happened, and of course he had to fix everything up and apologize a couple thousand times. This time around though…this is happened to HER now, yet all the fault seems to fall on her boyfriend??? Is she not in the wrong too??? I just feel bad for him at this point in time. They never seem to really think through the other’s perspective. They don’t self-reflect. In this case, she names all these changes she’d like him to make, yet, has she ever thought of what he would like in a girlfriend?

I understand it’s extremely difficult to make a completely balanced relationship where each party gives 50/50, but it shouldn’t be like this. One party shouldn’t be giving their all while the other stays idle and expects all desires and wants to be accomplished. I’ve gone through shit in my past relationship and I know myself, wasn’t best at how I handled it, but I acknowledged that. I self-reflected and really did think a lot, and learnt from what I went through. The issue with so many people is that they DON’T self-reflect. They just roll through life, rambling without a single thought of what’s to be gained from their experiences. I don’t even understand how some people can repeatedly make the same mistake again, again, and again. If we saw it physically, it would literally just be a person running headlong into a closed door, falling down, getting up, and running to the door headlong again. Repeat cycle, without ever stopping just to think; what should I do different next time so that I don’t have to go through the same problem and avoid the pain?

Sometimes I really want to just NOT care, drop it and let them deal with it on their own.

Because fuck, I have enough on my own plate.